Wednesday, 24 May 2017

After Manchester, Only Kindness Matters

As I woke up the day after the terrorist incident in Manchester I turned to a song that I turned to when I heard the news about Orlando in June last year: “Hands” by Jewel. It’s not particularly surprising considering the song was performed a lot following 9/11. Hands is a song that speaks about mortality, vulnerability and the resilience of the human spirit in ‘times like these.’ What I also remember from that time is that less than two weeks later Jo Cox was murdered. Following this there was a suspension of all campaigning activities in the Brexit referendum until the start of the following week, and in the interim there was a cross party outpouring of public sympathy, paying respects and commemorating of Jo Cox. In this period there was a time to reflect on the way we conduct politics, the way we speak of our MPs and the way that we debate and argue with one another. Unfortunately once campaigning resumed all that seemed to be forgotten with the Jeremy Paxman TV debate I remember being particularly hostile and unpleasant. Once the Brexit result happened Labour then proceeded to fight amongst themselves and it was as if Jo Cox had been forgotten about and people on both sides of the Labour party were now resorting to dehumanizing and personal attacks.

Now that General Election campaigning has resumed, through analysisng Jewel’s song “Hands,” I would like to explore ways of relating to one another that do not have to be so hostile. After Manchester people across political parties came together to show kindness and support one another. They were able to recognize even within political opponents and those they strongly and even morally disagree with a kind of common humanity enough to come together and pick up the pieces after a terrorist attack.

So I turn to Jewel. Jewel is an American singer songwriter, who, like many of the singers I listen to is close to country music. She came to great attention, especially in the US during the mid 1990s female singer-songwriters with the emphasis on self-expression such as Tori Amos, Sheryl Crow, Alanis Morrisette and Sarah McLachlan gained mainstream critical and commercial success. After suffering an unstable childhood, Jewel focused on her singing and songwriting and her debut album Pieces of You (1995), which she described as ‘imperfect, full of mistakes and guitar flubs, but it is honest’ (Jewel, 2015: 173) went on to sell 12 million copies in the US alone. Her second album Spirit (1998) was also successful, if not at the same scale as her first, and it is from this album from which “Hands” is taken.



The song presents the protagonist in a scene of desperation, although we are never told exactly what the situation she is in. The song’s video features a collapsed house with people digging through rubble to rescue people – music videos often use imagery for evocative rather than literal purposes. This focus on the emotion of the situation, rather than the specifics enables this song to resonate and connect across different circumstances and still be just as poignant. What is notable about the protagonist is that even at the very beginning she is calm and resolved:

‘If I could tell the world just one thing,
it would be that we’re all OK.
And not to worry ‘cause worry is wasteful
And useless in times like these.’

Although the first line could be just a brave face to try and keep things calm, it is clear from the following lines that Jewel putting on a brave face is not because she is in denial of the situation. Her reason to ‘not worry’ is not that there is nothing to worry about, but that ‘worry is wasteful and useless.’ In fact the reason Jewel is putting on a brave face is a more mature acknowledgement of how serious and desperate the situation is that there is not time to worry, to waste and for things not to work. In putting a brave face on and telling the world ‘all ok’ is a conscious attempt to keep the situation and the people around her calm so that a better resolution can come about.

Jewel continues this idea that worry and panicking is ‘useless’ and that the situation requires her to be the best person she can be:

‘I will not be made useless
I won't be idled with despair
I will gather myself around my faith
For light does the darkness most fear.’

Worry is intensified into ‘despair’ and similarly the frailty of uselessness becomes closer to a moral fault or sin as it relates to being ‘idled.’ Jewel recognizes the potential and even compulsion to crumble in this situation and yet she resolves to be a stronger and better person: ‘I will gather myself around my faith.’ In this personal resolve, Jewel is able to salvage what she can, the ‘light;’ rather than let the desperate situation (‘the darkness’) completely claim her.

The song now reaches an almost euphoric chorus as Jewel’s resolve enables her to have complete control over herself. As the powerlessness of her situation, the feeling which can often come after a terrorist incident, is replaced as she reaffirms her control and agency over herself, her actions, her reactions, her ‘hands’:

‘My hands are small, I know,
But they're not yours they are my own
But they're not yours they are my own
And I am never broken.’

Jewel acknowledges that this is not enough to change the situation, it cannot take away the destruction her hands are just her hands, they’re ‘small.’ However they are a step to make a positive change and keep her resolved. As a result she refused to be broken by this: ‘I am never broken.’ In these small steps she is able to move towards a bigger change. By the end of the song the individual declaration ‘I am never broken’ becomes a ‘we’: ‘we are never broken.’ Collectively, people, communities and society are able to salvage a better way.

The middle eight of the song is the first step to Jewel transitioning from her own, individual resolve to a more community or collective resolve and change. The middle eight is simply the line: ‘in the end only kindness matters’ repeated. However the tempo of this line is fairly slow allowing the sentiment to sink gradually into the listener’s mind. When meaningless acts of terror happen, it doesn’t matter who you are, or what previous disagreements or grievances you had with one another, when people need to pull together, they need to support one another small acts of kindness can mean a great deal. In these desperate moments when we see our vulnerable and basic humanity: ‘only kindness matters.’ This kindness melodically is presented as intense and thereby a seemingly simple act is presented as being so powerful. In devastating acts of terror, small acts of kindness can mean the world. However, there is a tragic irony that this fundamental human kindness is only acknowledged at times of raw desperation, and it appears that as soon as we are out of the immediate danger or aftermath of a tragedy we forget what potential for compassion and humility we are capable of.

The coda of the song unties the community, the individual Jewel’s ‘hands’ and God with the repetition: ‘We are God’s hands.’ In discarding common human weaknesses of worrying and idleness that prevents action and people working to come together, Jewel is able to hold herself together and help transform the community around her from one of disintegration, hopelessness and divison, into one of hope, selflessness and compassion.

The religious element of this song may be off putting to some and perhaps both my reading and the song is too sentimental. However there is an acknowledgement of the struggle, suffering and hard work to reach this state: the struggle to abandon idleness and worry and keep resolved. Further following terrorist acts the outpouring of international prayers can sometimes be scoffed at as at best a substitute for acting and at worst ‘what got us in this situation in the first place. However genuine prayers are rarely a substitute for action. Prayers bring resolve, bring clarity to a situation that can help people cope and strive towards change, at least for me, I don’t know anywhere near enough about theology to describe the significance or purpose of prayer for anyone else. However in the case of this song when Jewel sings before the final chorus: ‘I will get down on my knees and I will pray’ this act of prayer is placed in a context of being resolved enough to take meaningful action to salvage a desperate situation. Considering Jewel rejected any human tendency that did not help the situation as ‘useless’ and she vehemently refused to be made useless, if prayer would not help in any way then Jewel would not be doing it. Further, this process of coming together starts with how the individual comes to terms and processes the tragic situation. If prayer is part of how someone is able to be useful and help, then that prayer should be taken seriously.

“Hands” demonstrates that the vulnerability exposed after a tragic situation has the potential to reveal what humanity could be capable of, the compassion and kindness with how we could treat one another. I do fear that people will forget the cross-party and cross-community solidarity and compassion they demonstrated during this time; however I do hope (and pray) that some day we might be able to conduct politics and interact with one another in a way that does not forget the things we discover about each other when it matters the most.

Sources:


Jewel. 2015. Never Broken: Songs are Only Half the Story. New York: Blue Rider Press

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